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I can’t recommend the colleague who listed me as a reference

Alison Green

Because we were on friendly terms and her manager doesn’t want to be a reference for her, she’s listed me as a reference and says two places where she interviewed might call me. ” But she said it’s too late, she listed me, and can I please tell them she was great to work with.

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I think my nanny candidate used a fake reference

Alison Green

She also very quickly provided me with one reference, a former coworker, but it took her much longer to provide a reference from a parent she’d previously nannied for. Her coworker reference was good, no problems. The parent reference has a highly unusual name and was easily findable on social media. I’m lost.

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pushing back on unreasonable reference requests: a success story

Alison Green

I’ve seen a lot of comments/posts on your site about reference companies that are very pushy about trying to get their long surveys completed. That was a hard no for me — my references are doing me a favor, I’m not repaying that by getting them spammed. I just wanted to share a quick success I had today.

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How To Write a Reference Request Email (Samples & Templates)

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Jump to section What’s a reference? The importance of choosing the right references Who should I ask to be a reference? How to ask for a reference by email How to write a reference request email Reference request email examples References are the secret to job hunting success

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Professional References: What They Are and How to Ask For One

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Jump to section What are professional references? Who to ask for a reference Who not to ask for a reference How to ask for a reference How to list references on a resume Make your references count

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Referent Power: The Ultimate Form of Influence

Nir Eyal

The post Referent Power: The Ultimate Form of Influence appeared first on Nir and Far. It’s no secret that our behavior influences those around us. It gives us the power to make a difference—to influence the behavior of others and shape environments.

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company wants references from “coworkers you didn’t get along with”

Alison Green

This post, company wants references from “coworkers you didn’t get along with” , was originally published by Alison Green on Ask a Manager. Today I got an email asking me to send one to two references in each of five categories. And now five to ten references, over five different categories? References are valuable.